The truth about time management for farm families

by Adrienne Desutter

Balancing work and home life is a common struggle for many, but farm families face unique challenges that can make time management particularly difficult. With demanding schedules and a myriad of responsibilities, finding a way to manage it all can seem overwhelming.

The challenge of time management

As farm families, we have a lot to juggle. My husband's routine as a full-time farmer is inconsistent. During the busy harvest season, he's out in the field from dawn until late at night. Even in less busy seasons, there's always something to do, from fixing equipment to managing paperwork. There's constant communication with other farmers, and even at home, there's no real break. Those who aren't full-time farmers still juggle off-farm jobs with farming responsibilities, making time management even tougher.

Balancing family and farming

We love our families and want to spend time with them, but it's hard when there are so many demands on our time. Whether it's a spouse, children or other family members, everyone feels the strain. Home projects, maintenance and community involvement add to the challenge. Farm families value their communities and feel a strong need to contribute, whether through volunteering or advocacy in agriculture.

The myth of perfection

Here's the big secret: There is no secret to juggling everything perfectly. When we see people who seem to have it all together, they are usually just successful at one or a few things at a time and something else is likely being neglected. It's important to accept that we can't be perfect at everything. Understanding and embracing this can help reduce stress.

Flexible and maximized time

Time is flexible in how we choose to spend it. Busy people often manage to squeeze in more tasks because they see the value in accomplishment; however, it's crucial to know when to say no to avoid spreading ourselves too thin. Focus on activities that fuel your passions and bring you joy, and don't feel guilty about saying no to others.

Practical tips for better time management

• Write down goals. Set daily, weekly and monthly goals to visualize how you're spending your time. 
• Prioritize. Focus on what's truly important and be realistic about what you can accomplish. 
• Say “no.” It’s okay to decline additional responsibilities to maintain your well-being. 
• Stay flexible. Adapt your schedule based on seasonal demands and personal needs.

Remember, you can do anything, but you cannot do everything. Prioritize what matters most and give yourself grace for the rest. Embrace the flexibility of time and make conscious choices that align with your values and well-being.

If you found this discussion helpful, I invite you to join me on the Wellness in the Fields podcast, brought to you by the SIU Medicine Farm Family Resource Initiative. It offers practical insights, stories of strength and expert guidance on critical mental health topics for farming families. So grab your headphones, take a moment and join us on this mission to cultivate wellness.